Create a Life that Feels Good!: A Chinese Proverb

"The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials."

The Wolves Within

An old grandfather said to his grandson who had come in to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, "Let me tell you a story."

"I, too, at times, have felt a great hate for those who have taken so much with no sorrow for what they do; but hate wears you down and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking a poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggles with these feelings many times."

He continued, It is as if there are two wolves inside of me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But...the other wolf...Ahh!

The littliest thing will send him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing."

"Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside of me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."

The boy looked intently into his grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"

The grandfather smiled and quietly said, "The one I feed."